Friday, November 9, 2012
Breathing more easily takes on many forms this week, now that I think about it. Every time I think our lives may settle down, even a bit, we are thrown a curve ball, but that is just life, I suppose. This Sunday we received a horrible phone call that our daycare provider had an aneurysm and was in emergency brain surgery. Those were all the details that we received at the time and honestly it sent us into a tailspin kind of week. After we got the phone call from Rhonda's neighbor, Carla, we also had Carla's daughter (who is our age) Megan stop by our house. Luckily, Megan is a nurse and could give a few more details. As of yesterday, Rhonda had thankfully made it through surgery, has been up, talking and walking, is eating solid foods, and has moved out of the ICU. She may even be home in the next day or two. We are still waiting to hear more details about her recovery time and the possibility that she will be resuming daycare.
So this week Adam and I have taken turns staying home with James. We had many generous offers from friends and family to stay with James, but this week it has been easier to just switch off between the two of us. Next week we are able to do the same (November is a great month for government workers to stay home, we have a ton of holidays!) and the week after I already had off the entire week for Thanksgiving and Rhonda's preplanned vacation. Needless to say, I don't think she'll be going to Florida, but I'm sure that's the last thing on her family's mind!
On top of trying to figure out who is staying home with James and when, we've visited 4 daycare providers and will visit 2 more today. This is the biggest stress I could imagine at 31 weeks pregnant and trying to keep myself from totally freaking out has been difficult. Three of the providers we've seen can take James and the baby and 3 of them can take only James. Once we know more about Rhonda's situation, we'll be able to decide which is the best option. Obviously, if Rhonda can't take the baby in 14 weeks or so, then we want to make as few changes as possible for James, so he'll start with the provider that will also take his baby brother when that time comes. I feel strange, leaving my boys in the care of a total stranger, but Adam pointed out to me that Rhonda was once a complete stranger also.
It's hard not to sound selfish during this time. I want Rhonda to get better overall, not just so she can babysit my kids. If she can babysit my kids, its just a bonus, but those lines get easily blurred. This week has just been really hard.
Tuesday, James and I went to the OB for my 30 week checkup! I've gained a little bit of weight, but my ankles and feet are quite swollen, leading me to believe that its just water weight. My blood pressure was fine (amazing considering this week's stress!), my blood sugar is well controlled and everything with baby is just fine. At 32 weeks, I'll have another growth ultrasound and start non stress testing (NST). I can't believe I am so close to being done with this chapter of my life, but I am looking forward to never being pregnant again! If all goes well for that visit, I won't need to do a second NST the day after Thanksgiving. Weekly visits are eminent and I know before we have time to blink, we'll have a second little boy.